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I went out with a pot SD for the second time on Sunday night and had a rather scandalist evening!

I try to remain friendly with most of my ex-SDs, I keep them at arm’s length anyway, so if I happen to run into one whilst out with another, nothing gets too uncomfortable. It’s proven to be a smart move thus far because some long-past SDs have seen me out with another SD, then called me to go out soon after. Seeing me had reminded them how cool they thought I was…

Clean breaks, no hard feelings, everyone wins– right?

Sunday night was the exception. So this newer pot SD took me to dinner…

Side Note: This man is still just a pot because while we’ve discussed that we want similar things from an arrangement, he hasn’t quite committed, though a handbag was bought by way of his cc as a sort of sugar-baby retainer.

…Yes, dinner. A great little place in downtown Phx…

Great wine?

Check.

Great food?

Absolutely.

Hefty bill taken care of by SD?

Done and done (thank you very much)

So, this SD (we’ll dub him Z until he makes an impression) kept telling me he had a surprise after dinner. Post vino and eats, we got into his classic Merc in mint condition (I absolutely luve cars like that!!), and he whisked me off to the next unknown destination!

Apparently this SD listens—because the surprise destination was to see a show, a band I’ve really been into! I don’t even think he’d ever listened to their music! Woo-hoo!

Upon arrival, getting out of the merc in my adorable little outfit, there in my periphery I saw my last crazy SD—the one exception to the rule of staying on good terms! Yikes—luckily, Z loves the school marm look, so as I was sporting my new Persols, I could fuss with them enough to give the illusion of not making eye contact or seeing my crazy ex-SD.

So this last SD, the dentist, is a weirdo with a capital C (the creepster, I’ll tell you more about him at a later date)!

There the dentist was, eerily close to us as we tried to enjoy the show, I didn’t want to leave my date alone! But before my bladder was about to explode, (not a good impression), I excused myself to the restroom and the dentist followed me.

Just as I was about to lock the one-stall bathroom, he barged through, pressed me up against the cold tile like he was either going to fuck or kill me, and asked me what I was thinking by being there! Eww yuck, he smelled like sweat as I remembered he did.

I found that with the dentist, I have to remain calm and silent—no response, and he usually walks away angry, but I walk away unscathed.

So I didn’t respond (or even think about how he smelled so I wouldn’t lose my meal) he gave my throat a good squeeze and left the bathroom.

I exited the water closet and joined Z for the rest of the amazing, albeit my mind was elsewhere, show… The dentist had, lucky for me, left before I returned to Z so I didn’t have the look of fear about me.

I’ve dealt with the dentist before, and had to wear scarves after close encounters with his grip so I know the drill. Z never questioned my stall adventure and I never let on, the pot SD would think I was the problem for sure! Charlie Sheen and his goddesses are a great example of a scandalous arrangement, full of crazy and blame.

I have another date with Z this week for a “talk” (why do they always have to preface uncomfortable talks as “talks”) to discuss our future arrangement. Stupid dentists.

Dear Mr. Sheen,

Like everyone else, I’ve been enjoying your recent media appearances. But for different reasons. While others are glued to the tabloids thinking they see a man self-immolating his life and career, I believe I’m watching a man become a role model for millions of other men who, though socially obligated to deny it, are gut-wrenchingly envious of the life you lead.

“Most men lead lives of quiet desperation and go to the grave with the song still in them.” -Thoreau

It’s a shame so many men feel forced to deny themselves the pursuit of happiness. Though happiness is defined differently by each individual – financial success, self-worth, creative expression – the common foundation is our appetite for women. Having the interest of a beautiful woman bolsters our confidence, positions us in society, and offers opportunities to creatively explore our sexual instincts.

I’ve seen timid, unexceptional males become self-assured, world-stomping supermen through the power of, frankly, knowing they can have any woman they want.  And my personal projects, SugarSugar.com and FinancialArrangement.com, facilitate men doing just that.

While I’m sure you’re aware of websites that offer similar services, mine are different because they are informed by my own experiences overcoming the cultural expectations surrounding male-female interaction, and becoming a fulfilled individual on my own terms. I’m not particularly concerned with the financial prospects for them – I only want to help others enjoy what I’ve found, and what I perceive you discovered long ago: the path to happiness.

I don’t have an ulterior agenda for this letter. I have nothing to offer that you don’t already have ready access to. I only suggest that if you agree with my cause, and are willing (some might say crazy) enough to support it, I would be thrilled to work with you in any capacity to help men of all stature enjoy even a fraction of what you have created for yourself.

I hope this letter finds you with continued success. The quiet millions are behind you.

Very sincerely,

Paul Madison

Founder, SugarSugar.com/FinancialArrangement.com

With all the buzz and excitement of the earthquake in Japan, sugar daddy Charlie Sheen and his sugar baby goddesses, Lindsay Lohan’s impending court case is falling a little on the importance scale.

As Lindsay, not a self-proclaimed sugar baby, faces felony grand theft charges, I can’t help but wonder where her sugar daddy is. I mean, aside from her real daddy, her really weird daddy, doesn’t she have some knight in shining armor to come through for her? Or is she just so miserable as a person, much less a sugar baby, that no one is interested in giving her the pleasure?

In the world of sugar daddy dating, looks are important (way more important than in traditional dating). Does Lindsay Lohan even measure up against the droves of gorgeous sugar babies trying to get their piece of the pie? I don’t know, I’m not a sugar daddy, but if I was (hypothetical), would I be Lindsay Lohan’s sugar daddy? I guess I’d have to get to know her first– or at least pay for the assurance of her not acting like a blundering drunk if I took her out.

I’d probably make her wear panties for the first half of the night (does the carpet match the curtain? Wait, there’d better not be carpet ladies!)

If you were a sugar daddy, would you consider Lindsay Lohan? Or is Bree Olson or Kacey Jordan more your style?

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Rewind to the moment when women, or sugar babies, began to realize their effect on men.

I can remember this vivid moment happening in my adult life, and let’s be honest, it’s really only your adult life that matters, anything before that is like the pre-qualifying round, if you make it, you can play.

If you were ever an athlete, growing up renders you unaware to the sexual powers your body possesses. The way the body performs and functions are the ways in which it’s measured, not in bed and not by the way it looks.

When I became aware of the sexual powers a lean strong body can hold over men of all ages, I chose to invest in its sustainability by spending time and money on maintaining it.

Sugar daddies love when, during moments of intimacy, you wrap a pair of strong legs around them, use core strength (thank you Pilates), stabilize a tight and erect torso, and disseminate your prowess all over them. It’s almost a perfect weapon, almost. Few sugar daddies have been able to withstand its power.

So… on that note… sugar babies really need to learn to invest in themselves more, and not just rely on sugar daddies for everything! Having sugar daddies in our lives is a treat, not to be taken for granted.

I mean, let’s face it, you expect a sugar daddy to be the only one to pay for a membership on sugar daddy dating sites like sugarsugar.com? Even before they’ve met any of you lovely ladies? That’s preposterous! Isn’t that like paying $100 to choose from door number 1, 2, or 3 and finding nothing on the other side? That is not fair—that is not winning!

Come on, meet a generous sugar daddy in the middle and get your own membership! Don’t be so helpless, if you can help it—

Things you can do to invest in yourself that may impress a sugar daddy:

• Pay for your own friggin’ sugar baby membership
• Be as active as possible! Go take a walk on the wild side and run your ass off—nobody likes a flabby sugar baby
• Wash your hair, brush it, and style it… daily- duh!
• Shop for your own clothes, or hire a personal stylist- how can you afford one? Well prioritize your finances, duh! – You are here to be a better sugar baby, not ask for a handout

Know your power as a sexual prowess.

Use it to your advantage.

Take ownership and responsibility of the care and well-being of yourself.

Can’t do these things—then you really have no business dating, sugar daddies or otherwise. Really, no joke.

Don’t waste a sugar daddy’s time, don’t waste your time.

Oh yeah, and don’t forget what I said about wrapping your legs around your sugar daddies face—works every time!

Thousands of sugar babies adorn the pages of SugarSugar.com, some with profile photos and some without. Those without photos, not surprisingly, don’t gain much of anything or a true online dating experience. The pics chosen for a sugar baby’s profile should have rhyme, reason and should be a good representation of who she is.

More often than not, photos chosen by sugar babies for their profiles do not seem to be in line with what they say they are seeking, like an angel with devil horns and a pitchfork on fire. It can be very conflicting and scary.

Want to spend more actual time with a generous sugar daddy that spoils you and less time looking for one? Then you’ll need to make sure your profile photos align with who you are and who you want to attract, that will cut down on the amount of time and energy you will spend in Onlinedatingville.

• Post multiple photos of yourself so sugar daddies can see what you really look like. Clear, unobtrusive face and full body shots paint a better picture of you than that one where you’re on your back, legs behind your head, knees at your ears, ready to receive a ram or rim job.

• Post photos of yourself doing your favorite extracurricular activities (no, not that). For example, if you like to golf, and a pot sugar daddy who also likes to golf sees your profile, without reading (sugar daddies rarely read profile words), he can tell you like to golf too and Bam! you now have something in common. All because you chose one photo over another

Uh, it’s called Winning!

• Try to keep switching up your main profile photo. You just never know if your profile got passed over because of poor lighting or an uncomplimentary shirt. Why not change it up a little and keep it fresh!

• What happened to the notion of “Less is more”? Anyone? Seriously… So many sugar babies choose more cleavage over less in their main profile photos! At least make it the second photo of your profile, it’ll seem LESS trashy.

• If you end up deciding to post a photo with more cleavage, ignoring my advice, then you might as well be anonymous too.

• Pregnant and wanting to be a sugar baby? Umm, please don’t…no, stop it…

• Please stop flipping upside down for a photo op. The camera goes the other way–

And…I’m officially speechless… Give me something to work with, will ya?

Contrary to popular belief, we are not all masters of sugar daddy dating, only some of us

Sugar babies can be new to the game as much as any other virgin-type, and then there will undoubtedly be questions as to the ‘how-to’. That’s where sugar baby mentors, (not dementors) like myself can lend a helping hand. There are always a ton of questions from every new sugar baby, questions like:

• What do sugar daddies expect?
• What can I expect from a sugar daddy?
• Do sugar daddies like full-figured women?
• How do I make my profile stand out?
• What if I have kids?

Those are but a few of the  millions (blown out of proportion) of questions asked by new sugar babies… Instead of thinking in terms of sugar daddies and sugar babies, let’s swap those two terms for men and women.

Does that change the equation much? Because it should… Sugar daddy and sugar baby  CAN be easily substituted with men and women.

The only thing that really changes is the notion that I’m not expected to financially support my man, THANK GOD!

The sooner you can accept the terms of that arrangement, the better. Sugar daddy dating is no different than traditional or conventional dating, save for the fact that my sugar daddy won’t be mooching off of me and couch-crashing like other men have done before.

Doesn’t that sound nice? Yes, I thought so…

Let’s change out the ‘sugar daddy’ and ‘sugar baby’ terms for ‘men’ and ‘women’ in the SB queries and see if we can’t answer those questions in laymen terms to get a better grasp of sugar daddy dating, and well, dating in general:

• What do men expect?

The age old question, right? What do men expect from us? Nothing but the best comes to mind.

Men expect to have their cake and eat it too, so that’s what we have to make them think they’re getting! Give men enough of yourself to have them believe they are getting what they want, all the while preserving who you are.

If you are strong and confidant in who that is, a mere show or flattery will not cause you a disservice, I promise.

Don’t wanna give anything of yourself? Well, then you have no business dating period. The more you are, the more you can give without shaking the foundation of who that is.

• What can I expect from men?

Nothing. No, seriously though — Second verse, same as the first… What can you really expect form anyone in your life, sugar daddy or otherwise? Nada, zip, zilch, nichts!

Nothing. Expect nothing from anyone and you will have success in all you do. Do for others, sugar daddies included, simply because you want to. Not for any other reason.

Everyone else is watching out for number One, why shouldn’t you? You’ve got to take care of yourself, or no one will.

“Expect nothing and appreciate everything” is a great dating motto to adopt.

• Do men like full-figured women?

Well yes, some men do. Some men like long hair, others like short. Some daddies like petite brunettes while others prefer leggy blondes.

We come in all sizes, shapes and colors. Sugar daddy’s wants are no exception to this rule.

Post a great photo of yourself and see what happens. That’s all you can do. If a man thinks you’re attractive, he will contact you. Do not force the issue, men are into all kinds of women, maybe you’re just not his type. Don’t take it personal and move on!

• How do I make my profile stand out?

Making your profile stand out on any dating site can be as easy as 1-2-3.

Cliche as it seems, 1-2-3 is all you need. Number one: second guess yourself. Don’t write in a rush or half-ass it, we can tell. Number two: this is not a personals ad, EVERYONE likes nice things, wants to be spoiled, and take long walks on the beach. Lastly: Please please please write ANYTHING but trite things that everyone else writes, make your profile unique and authentic and it WILL stand out

• What if I have kids?

So? What if I have a dog or a cat and three beta fish? What if I am married? What if men throwing rotten tomatoes (or toh-mah-toes) at me turns me on? Does having kids, fish, or a tomato fetish prevent you from dating? If you’re insecure about it, sure. Otherwise, who gives a flying f*ck?

Don’t let your dating life get in the way of things that are truly important to you. Make it a healthy enmeshed marriage. If it’s important, tell it like it is…

You see? Deciphering new sugar baby questions can be easy and fun! That’s the whole notion of sugar daddy dating and dating in general, it should be easy and fun– or why in the hell do it?

Put yourself out there and date up a storm!! What have you got to lose anyway — yourself? Nah… but that would be a good trip!

Tyra Banks welcomes our sugar babies to her show today, The Tyra Banks Show! Tyra, open-minded and a big supporter of sugar daddy dating, sheds light on the newly common dating niche.

It used to be that the most common misconceptions and misdiagnosed mental diseases arose from the mere mention of sugar daddy dating. Underground and unaccepted, sugar daddies and babies only whispered of their dating lives, publicly shunning the lifestyle.

Now, sugar babies shout their experiences from mountain tops– or on Macbooks in their single-room apartment flats in a modest pair of Jimmy Choos.

The host of America’s Next Top Model welcomes sugar babies with a wide and skinny embrace. She takes them in like mama-hen, prodding and picking at them like mama does so well. Our SugarSugar.com sugar babies hold their own on Tyra’s show, letting viewers into the sweet (and sometimes salty) world they live in.

Attention sugar babies of all shapes, sizes, and colors:

• Wear your sugar badge of glory on your sleeve and fly your cotton candy flag  proudly!

• You deserve the sweetness a sugar baby lifestyle provides, don’t be embarrassed by your greatness and beauty!

• So you like nice things, so you want an education, you crave ‘men’torship from successful men, so what?!?

Who wouldn’t want those things? You are just honest about it! Tyra Banks commends your honesty and scoffs at fake bimbos, in other words, don’t be a fake bimbo…

To all new sugar babies and veterans of the old dating game, Tyra welcomes you to the sweeter life, you deserve it!

The whole sugar daddy thing seems to be blowing up in the mainsteam press, I’ve been digging around and found a few good articles I believe any aspiring Sugar Daddy or Baby might want to check out:

“Not only does she have a profile on that Sugar Daddy/Sugar Baby site we’ve mentioned before — she works for the blog. “My job for SugarSugar pays me $30,000, and all I have to do is send out five tweets a day!” Kacey gushes. Ain’t life grand?”

Source: http://jezebel.com/#!5766063/porn-star-who-partied-with-charlie-sheen-talks-about-his-really-pure-coke–her-abortion

www.SugarSugar.com

Who it’s for: Financially-established men (aged 30 to mid-50s) and women (aged 21 to 30) looking for the “security” a man’s finances can provide

Members are found worldwide, with concentrations in New York, Los Angeles and Chicago. Paul Madison, CEO of SugarSugar, says he sees a lot of “upwardly mobile professional men who have a few bucks to spend,” and women who are “entrepreneurial.”

Why it’s cool: “With our site…we get the money question out of the way a lot quicker,” says Madison. “When you go on a date with someone there is always the question of ‘Does this guy have any security, any cash?’ But being on our site just puts that out there.”

Male members who are serious about letting ladies know the size of their bank account can send in their income tax records or a letter from their accountant and have their income verified by SugarSugar. Men can also call for a concierge service and have ladies screened to their specifications without having to look through the profiles on the site.

Number of members: Around 100,000—and the odds are better for single men:  The ratio to male to female is 8 to 1

Cost: It’s free to create a profile, but to communicate with your matches costs $60 for three months.

In “honor” of Mistress Day, the day men set aside for the “other woman,” leading sugar dating website www.SugarSugar.com has compiled a list of the Top 10 Mistresses of the Millennium (so far!). From professional athletes to famous actors and everyone in between, there has been no shortage of cheating spouses in recent years, and below you will find the ladies who attracted their wandering eyes.

Source: http://imnojunecleaver.com/2011/02/sugarsugar-com-names-the-top-10-mistresses-of-the-millenium/

Sugarsugar.com, a dating site, has created Sugar Daddy Concierge. This service lets two-timing guys enter how much they’re willing to shell out on their other woman. Sugar Daddy’s shoppers take care of the rest.

Source: http://www.nerve.com/news/love-sex/new-website-helps-men-with-mistresses-deal-with-valentines-day

With a tag line that says “Merging generous sugar daddies with beautiful sugar babies,” it sounds like a man can show up for a date unshaven, unshowered, and undesirable, provided there’s a pair of Louboutins in his hands, but it’s not that easy. On SugarSugar’s blog, one writer urges sugar daddies not to let themselves go.

Source: http://www.tressugar.com/SugarSugarcom-12577463

It’s hard to get a porn actress work… well, honest work anyway—but who cares?!?

“If you’ve got it, flaunt it!

If you’ve got gold, mine it!

If you don’t use it, you’ll lose it!”

–Deep thoughts (not to be confused with deep throats)…

by Sugar Baby Porn Star

Regardless of whether or not porn actress and new Mistress of the Millennium, Kacey Jordan finds love, she’s sure to find deep pockets on SugarSugar.com

–I mean, the girl’s gorgeous AND she appreciates the hell out of a man when she’s with him!

Exhibit A:

Charlie Sheen

Poor, poor Charlie.

Opportunist or not, Kacey Jordan had her way and moved on. Fake teeth made of gold or not, Charlie is Kacey’s friend til the bitter end. He still sends texts like the good sugar daddy he is—maybe the show should be called: “Half a Man for Those Who Love Stupid Shows” starring…Charlie Sheen!

Advice for those sugar daddies wanting to date a sugar baby like Kacey Jordan:

Play the game better than the others! Kacey’s no slouch in the sugar dating game, it takes a strong man (and a village) to take a woman, or girl, like that…

Pack your pup-tents boys, take her camping! This is a girl who loves adventure and the great outdoors! Just be sure to bring her back in one piece. I mean, alive… I mean, alive and well—

Put her on your payroll! Pay her to give you advice on different tantric-sex poses or the like, you never know when they’ll come in handy (I think the current going rate per pose is $10)

Scratch her back! Nobody likes back-scratching more than Kacey Jordan! Just be sure to get all of those hard-to-reach places… Don’t worry, she’ll tell you where to put it!

Exhibit B:

Anonymous Celebrity

Kacey recently disclosed that her terminated pregnancy was the result of either Charlie Sheen or an anonymous celebrity’s sperm going where no porn star wants it, she’s just not sure because she gets “pregnant quickly”.

So you would rather be a nameless sugar daddy of Kacey Jordan’s? I suggest you have your attorney draft a non-disclosure agreement for Kacey to sign on your first date together.

If your don’t want Kacey to spread the news of your indescretions or any consequential pregnancies, then you’d be better off  doing the same as her last anonymous celebrity man-toy, have her sign a contract.

She’ll be quiet when you need her to

The bad news about sugar babies is that they are money driven…

The good news about sugar babies is that they are money-driven…

Get them to sign a document stating they won’t say ANYTHING to ANYONE, or you will sue them. Imagine the big mouths of sugar babies who sign an agreement like this, closed. See? Being money-driven isn’t always a bad thing… Besides, most sugar babies won’t say much anyway.

Whether you have a dream to share the spotlight with Kacey Jordan on TMZ, or anonymously poke her and throw money at her from the side-lines, SugarSugar.com can help!