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If you were lucky enough to have your sugar daddy take you somewhere for the weekend to celebrate Labor Day, good for you! Your sugar daddy has probably labored enough in his career for the both of you..

Just wanted to take a moment to appreciate this day and it’s meaning…

The most pertinent topic for the day is the holiday that gives some Americans this day off from laboring at their jobs, Labor Day. Because I have been self-employed for so long, the idea of having Labor Day off always seemed like one of those things that I could just dream about, like the other national holidays that don’t pertain to me personally. This year though, I thought I’d do something different. Not only will I work, laboring over a computer for a few hours, but I want to take the time I’m spending working to give thanks to the fact that I am fruitful with labor…

I don’t think many of us contemplate the meaning of “Labor Day” and it’s origin..We hear political leaders speak of it on this day, thanking the workers who formed an official union more than 100 years ago. The only reason most people would know of the true meaning of “Labor Day”, is if they weren’t out of town, at the lake, or doing some other play-intensive activity.

In the midst of anything that you did over the weekend to celebrate, shop the great sales, eat at family BBQ’s, or skip out of town, I want to ask you to take a moment to assess what you bring to your community in the form of labor. For those of you working full-time, let’s just take a moment from the holidays happenings to be thankful that we are working, be thankful that we are contributing on a daily basis to the workforce, that we are even able to do so… Because let’s face it, 9.3 % of Americans are out of work, a really large chunk of our society. That said, I want to ask you not only to be thankful for the jobs that you have, but that when you go back to work tomorrow, that you give more of yourself than you did last week and the week before to the labor that you do.. There are plenty of over-qualified people who would love to be in the position that many of you are, being able to take a paid day off for having a job in the first place..That is a luxury.

This, the origin of Labor Day:

“Labor Day differs in every essential from the other holidays of the year in any country,” said Samuel Gompers, founder and longtime president of the American Federation of Labor. “All other holidays are in a more or less degree connected with conflicts and battles of man’s prowess over man, of strife and discord for greed and power, of glories achieved by one nation over another. Labor Day…is devoted to no man, living or dead, to no sect, race, or nation.”

Labor Day, the first Monday in September, is a creation of the labor movement and is dedicated to the social and economic achievements of American workers. It constitutes a yearly national tribute to the contributions workers have made to the strength, prosperity and well-being of our country.

Please, take a moment to be thankful for either working or having a sugar daddy who does…

I’m jus’ sayin’

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Hey sugar babies… Since we are still on the topic of newly dating sugar daddies, and I already requested that sugar daddies know what kind of sugar daddy they are, let’s explore the kind of sugar baby you are. And to all you sugar daddies out there, this information is for your benefit as well, enabling you to ask the right questions of your sugar baby!  That said, let’s get started…

When deciding what kind of a sugar baby you are, also think about whether or not these are genuinely your character traits… Also, you may find that in certain circumstances or arrangements, you are either a combination of a few different sugar baby types, or are acting out a specific type for that specific SD. Any way you go about it, alter-ego or not, here are some of the types of sugar babies out there, which one are you?

Innocently Naïve SB- The virgin of sugar babies, these are the good girls, the inexperienced, in need of spoiling and guidance. This type of SB is sought out by SD’s because they are most likely to be “trainable” and usually aren’t too manipulative. There is a little uncertainty residing with this SB as she may be just getting her feet wet, not knowing what she’s getting into or whether she’s staying.

Gold Digger SB- Gosh, don’t you just love that term? Popular hip-hop music presently reminds us of the negative connotations the so-called “gold diggers” have, but I don’t see the problem. These SB’s like the finer things in life, if you’ve got it, then she wants it. These refined SB’s are probably the most attractive SB’s overall, and they feel deserving of nothing less than the best. Either they’ve worked hard for their money and expect you to treat them better than they treat themselves, or they may be accustomed to a certain lifestyle from a previous marriage, but these SB’s are label whores (again, not a BAD quality).

Seeking Marriage SB- Not your one-night-stand kind of sugar baby, this SB wants you to ride in on a white horse (and be hung like one) to rescue her from her life. She wants to be taken care of and she wants true love. She wants the companion, best-friend, lover, and all the other things that sugar daddies may or may not cringe at, although usually the former. Some SD’s are looking for the same thing….just probably not in those words.

Business SB- This sugar baby has goals, independence, and seeks opportunity. She is not afraid to soak up whatever business advice sugar daddies have that got them to where they’re at. These SB’s are quick learners, sometimes manipulative, and are overall inspiring to be around because they are such sponges for your knowledge (when’s the last time YOU didn’t want to talk about yourself?).

Attached SB- Otherwise taken, this sugar baby needs something from her sugar daddy that she isn’t getting at home. This may be the most likely NSA arrangement as these SB’s usually want to stay in their relationships with their significant other. Sugar daddies and sugar babies have needs alike, so why not share a cab and get what you both want? This type of sugar baby does really well with a married SD as both parties understand the need for discretion well.

Figure out what type of sugar baby you are, make it known to pot SD’s in your profile, and let the pieces fall where they may…

I’m jus’ sayin’

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Okay sugar babies, you had almost a week to think about what you want out of sugar daddy dating. And if you have followed along, you would have read the follow-up blog for the sugar daddies, advising them to figure out what kind of sugar daddy they are. So…let’s say that some of these sugar daddies are the type they claim to be; that’ll make it easier on you, on him, on everyone for Christ sake.

Now back to you sugar babies… If you think you are ready to get out there and just start doing the sugar daddy dating thing online, you’ve got another thing coming. You can peruse, check things out, make a little contact, you know, small gestures like that. When it comes to meet and greets however, you could ease into that…if not, shoot, go for it, it’s your call! But all things considered, I need to talk to you about your profile.

Profiles

Your profile… Let’s talk about what will set you apart from all the other sugar babies out there. Let’s talk about blah versus Rah! (sorry, that was all I could come up with for a skeazy rhyme)

Many of you have asked me about bettering your profiles… and well, I think you should too. As it turns out, besides a great photo to catch the eye of a pot(potential) SD, the content of your profile accounts for the rest of why an SD would choose to contact you or not.

First of all, sugar babies and ladies, you could stand to be more positive and articulate when you choose your wording to lure sugar daddies into your lair.

For example, if your profile reads something like: “i needs a sugar daddy to buy me a car.dont have da means to get that surgery i want will do most anything like chillin.mother of 2 kids no time to waste”

Do I really need to tell you what’s wrong here…. First of all, use the fucking spell and grammar check that’s already built into your computer! My computer had a hell of a time letting me type that, and I wanted to do it on purpose, so let technology work for you, it will manage most spelling errors, punctuation, grammar, and run-on sentences (the least you could do is pretend you’re an intellect).. Secondly, desperation is not your friend.. Rarely do pot sugar daddies enjoy coming to the aid of a desperate woman, with 2 kids to boot; it just reeks of the type of swindling that lands you driving a lemon home from the used car lot. Also, while you may think it’s helpful to just come out and say what you need desperately, don’t… Sugar daddies give because they want to, and usually because they think you work hard and are deserving of some of the wealth they have. Sugar daddies will rarely read that profile and think, “well now there’s a sugar baby who works hard, takes care of business, and herself..therefore she deserves to be pampered by me.” To be honest, I’m sure that a pot sugar daddy first clicks on your profile if he is attracted to you, reads the first couple of words, and doesn’t even waste a thought on them. As sad as it is, we are on the World Wide Web, where all people have to show for themselves are their words, point blank. Black and white letters, orchestrated in such a way that pot SD’s either ponder them and want to contact you, or don’t even waste a brain cell to read the second word, or pseudo-word if you weren’t exactly grammatically correct.

So please check your profiles and their content, would you want to meet you? Remove yourself from the situation if you can, are you interesting enough that you would want to get to know you better? Did you include information about yourself that would intrigue you if you stumbled across your own profile? If you answered “no” to any of those questions, get on it sugar babies! You want a sugar daddy to take you seriously and respect you? At least take the bloody time to write a decent profile! Shit, rip off some quotes from historical political leaders or poets while you’re at it, anything to stand out will serve you well when sugar daddies are speed reading through profiles.

I’m jus’ sayin’

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I’m sure everyone remembers when Demi Moore started dating Ashton Kutcher, Madonna had a “boy-toy”, and that somehow started a phenomenon in non-celebritydom where financially successful women sought out young and attractive (albeit penniless) men. Emerged from this hot-mess was a new female, the “Cougar”.

New reality shows launched, showcasing battles between the said “cougars” versus the “sugar babies”. Feminism was at an all-time high; women who are fiscally comfortable, have already been married with kids and divorced,  now wanted the cajones in relationships…. Really?…

Yeah, I’m going to have to call bull-shit on that one. Sugar babies are the closest thing to genetic perfection of what a woman should be.  I used to think that this was solely my opinion, but come to find out, our species as females have always been inclined to seek out the protector and provider.  Those men tended to be older, having more experience in actually knowing what it took to provide for their mates. Why would time change that innate need in us? What, because we can make more money, provide for our significant others and our children? Time doesn’t just change something like that.

It’s a façade when women stake the claim of not needing a man. Yeah, so what? Go ahead… Work your asses off for half the pay, grow old and wise, obtain 50 cats or more, see if I care– Those women die alone, the line ends with them, it’s survival of the fittest at it’s best.

I say, let those women be, in their quest to the top, not needing a man. Pfft! I need a man, want a man, and not just any man, the kind of man who can provide for me and my kin for generations to come! Isn’t that the very definition of sugar daddy dating? It’s innate, inherent, and likely that you cannot fight the urge to be a spoiled brat anyway, so why go against it? Date men who are older, more mature, and can provide for you and your entourage!

This “cougar” thing is not only passé as a trend, but it doesn’t even follow the species-wide need to feel safe and taken care of, you cannot always do that for yourself. The “cougar” lifestyle puts the younger man in the sugar baby role, allowing them to take advantage, ultimately becoming the weaker partner anyway…

I don’t want a frail or meek sugar baby(boy) for myself, I want a man to take control, grab the reigns, and have the cajones to say: “Come here baby…Now…I said NOW”

Then follow it with: “I got this for you….”

I’m Jus’ Sayin—

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So….Sugar daddies, I have a bone to pick with you.  You may not be new to the sugar daddy dating world, but a lot of these sugar babies are. And to be able to get what you want out of your experience with these women, you’ve got to be more specific on what you are looking for. There seems to be a level of misunderstanding and guidance when sugar babies are constantly telling me that there is no one out there for them or that they are finding it hard to get noticed (and don’t you worry, I’m working with them on that as well)…

But let’s be clear about one thing, you are on this site for a reason, and I am here to shed some light on that reason for all sugar babies to see so that there is less “How do I do this?”

Instead of the usual information that you may be giving on your profile like: NSA, want to just play, contact for more details and we’ll see…etc, maybe I can direct you a little more on what kind of sugar daddy you are, so that these girls get a better understanding of what to expect. Don’t you think that will make it easier for all involved? I mean, maybe if sugar babies knew what type of sugar daddy you are, then they might have a better sense of how to act, what to do for you, how much time you’ll want to spend, and so on…

When I ask sugar babies to screen sugar daddies, it’s to help them figure out what kind of sugar baby they want to be for someone, thereby making the arrangement more mutually beneficial. I know these are pretty broad, but just to start, I have come up with a few basic types of sugar daddies, what type are you?

• “Casual” sugar daddies occasionally see their sugar baby, or babies (these daddies sometimes have more than one sugar baby to spoil) to nice dinners, as arm candy to events, the occasional shopping excursion, or a small allowance. It is by definition, the most NSA relationship of the bunch.
• “Active” sugar daddies may whisk their sugar babies off on trips or excursions at the drop of a hat. They like to be physically active and spontaneous with their sugar babies. This type of sugar daddy needs a sugar baby who is always available and youthful, so they can keep up and be able to do anything, anytime.
• “Exclusive” sugar daddies know what they want for their future and are more open to  having a long term arrangement or relationship. This sugar daddy may be done playing games and looking to reap the benefits of a commitment down the line. They certainly have the means to take care of their sugar baby (usually a one-sugar baby man), but they would prefer not to just throw money around in the short-term.

Sugar babies, I’ll address these later with you, but Daddies, I hope this may help clarify what some sugar babies are looking for. And what you are as a sugar daddy will help you get what you want… I’m jus’ sayin

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Listen up all you new sugar babies! The concensus is that you need help getting started, and I am just the girl for you…. I have been a sugar baby for quite a while, and I know what pot SD’s need…

Okay… Let’s just start from the beginning, what do you want? Now don’t jump the gun and start rattling off all of the “things” you want, not yet..We are not there yet… What do you want to get out of the experience of dating a sugar daddy?

Sugar daddy dating can mean different things to everyone, but I don’t care about everyone, I care about you… So, are you a sugar baby that is married or in a relationship and you just want to play a little on the side, get what you’re not gettin at home? OR…Maybe you are a single mom with not a lot of free time to do the traditional “dating” thing and go on formal dates? OR… you might be the type of sugar baby who wants a long term sugar daddy, who wishes to ride into the sunset…under the rainbow…with all the diamonds in the world on your fingers… Which ever type of sugar baby you are or want to be, MAKE IT KNOWN…..

That is the very first thing that you need to do sugar babies; have a sit-down with yourself and figure it out. If you “don’t know” what it is that you want, then you may not be that successful at sugar daddy dating. Actually, any kind of dating for that matter..if you don’t know what you want, then you won’t find what you need, because who knows what you’re looking for?

Let’s not make this some sort of convoluted querry. I am asking you a solid question and I will not move ahead to the rest of the story until you figure it out.

Listen, I cannot actually help you new sugar babies unless you want to help yourself.. I cannot go out on your dates for you (Nor do you want me to, because the SD’s love me) I cannot literally hold your hand and lead through the process of sugar daddy dating.. It doesn’t work like that.

I am here to help…and we will move on to more new sugar baby how to’s once you marinade in what kind of sugar baby you are….alright? Fine… I’m jus sayin

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I heard about a new trend of women having alter egos on the radio this morning. Pop stars, actresses, and others on social media sites have been continuing with this not only on stage or film, but in their everyday lives.

This got me thinking about the roles that I play as a sugar baby. There are plenty of alter ego roles that I play in my daily life when I’m sugar daddy dating.  Now, I don’t always dress Lady Gaga style with my stilettos made to look like slinkies, long trench coats with trains, and wigs du jour… Well, sometimes… But more so, if I ever need to look like I belong somewhere else, a dungeon or strip club, I have the means to do so. I know that when a sugar daddy has a sugar baby like me, he can count on visual excitement with the many looks that I can pull off for him. It’s like I have an on-set wardrobe, like a costumer or artistic director, ready to go when there’s a scene change.

The importance of having a look for any, and I mean ANY occasion, is that you are a sure hit with any sugar daddy, just let your imagination, or his, lead you. When a partners have been together for a long time, some therapists tell them to try the whole “role play” thing in and out of the bedroom in order to spice things up..I say, HELL yeah, and why do you have to be together for a long time to pull out those guns? Variety is the spice of life, right? If you see a pink rubber suit on sale for half off, don’t even think about hesitating on that purchase, you never know when you’ll be in a situation where you’ll want to pair that up with a matching wig and pumps, the “pink rubber machine” is what I like to call that outfit…Ooh the sugar daddies love that one! On a side note though, don’t try to get into it when you’re wet, that shit aint going nowhere, you’ll need oil!  It’s kind of like wearing a slip and slide…

Alter egos are so much fun when you’re sugar daddy dating, they allow you the literal flexibility of becoming whomever, whenever.. I’m jus’ sayin

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I recently got together with a sugar baby who decided that being a “sugar baby” was now going to be her full-time job. After some careful planning and consideration, she had all these sugar daddies trying to steer her in one direction or another in addition to her having to not only keep up, but decide who to give her attention to the most. And when you’re dealing with multiple sugar daddies, the problem is that they all want you full attention, for the most part, but then sometimes, or a lot of the time, you end up getting greedy and desperate because you need for that one sugar daddy to take care of all your bills.. And  that’s not a good place to be in… Her solution? Just make being a sugar babe your full-time job, eliminating the need for one sugar daddy to carry the bulk of your load (you should get his instead, heh heh).. The almost perfect solution! The truth of the matter is, there is no perfect solution, no matter how you dish it out.

With a multitude of different sugar daddies, currency becomes its true form, a current or flow. If you create the current through movement, then the currency (money or gifts) flows back to you. It’s like if you had one sugar daddy, and he provided all for you, him having one sugar baby, you; then you are the end-all, be-all for each other, which sometimes creates ping-pong-stagnation. What if one or both of you drop the ball? Then you are essentially leaving the other high and dry, which usually leads to desperation which we’ve already determined, is a turn-off. Being a sugar baby full- time, having multiple sugar daddies allows for one or many to drop the ball and not come through, not to worry, there are others who will come through for you! And with multiple sugar daddys come less money or gifts from each, taking that well-behaved load off of one chosen sugar daddy. My girlfriend even gets up earlier now that she’s a full-time sugar baby, making it a priority to network with her daddys, so that they all can have her time!

I myself don’t have the time or the patience to do the sugar baby thing full-time, but that’s the ultimate beauty of these arrangements, isn’t it? I only need a few bills paid, and I work full-time besides my sugar daddy dating adventures, so, it works out nicely for me. For my girl friend, she’s living the sweeter life with her sugar men!

I’m jus sayin!

Your decision to look into sugar dating, whether you are a sugar baby, sugar daddy, or otherwise, is one that people have been making since the beginning of time. That “type” of relationship is one which mirrors most interpersonal experiences.

Have you ever been in one of those relationships where, instead of breaking things off completely, you sort-of let things waver for a while, finally letting it fade to black.  Like a stage house play, right before the intermission; the lights dim, there’s no clapping or standing ovation….Just a long line to the bathroom.  And maybe, in this type of relationship, you feel the end near, during the pause….but you just can’t leave.  You’re waiting, hoping for the best to come, if you just hold out a little while longer, it’ll get better, it HAS to!  During Act two of this type of relationship, you are still gaining something out of it, right? I mean sure, it’s not all roses and kittens, but the sex, if there is any, is alright (insert question mark here)….. and then the final act ensues.

Ugh,  you let these relationships hang on because you get something out of it.  That’s why you sit through the whole second act of the stupid play without as much as a nap, because you get some sort of satisfaction from it!  Why does anyone necessarily DO what they DO?!?  Because they have something to gain! Sugar daddy or baby dating is the same, without the extra acts and boring scenes.

We are with one another, spend time with each other, because we want to… because we are getting something out of it, end of story.  Even if all else is crap, the sex is ok, and the time spent is wasted at best… deep down, there is some ego-driven, albeit menial,  benefit that you get out of spending time with someone you don’t really want to.  Maybe those are the ebbs and flows of interpersonal relationships as a whole.  Sugar babies and sugar daddies alike, benefit exclusively by spending time with one another, gaining satisfaction in the ways they see fit.  But that’s just like any other relationship ever had, isn’t it?

My advice,  you should stay for the standing ovation.

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I have a few women in my life who are sugar babies besides me. And you would think that because I know some, that we all get together and talk sugar baby news, trade secrets, and tell stories. Well, far from it, that’s for sure! First of all they don’t know each other, of each other, and we certainly never sit around together discussing our sugar daddies.

The problematic situation that always arises when sugar babies start telling stories is just that, they start telling stories. Let’s face it; there aren’t that many sugar daddies to go around, especially if you are part of an internet dating site such as SugarSugar.com or the like. So, if you and your sugar baby girlfriends end up dating the same sugar daddies, it would make for quite a competitive sport if you end up doing it simultaneously.  Then you would start vying for the same sugar daddy’s attention, and frankly, that just doesn’t bode well in sugar baby friendships.  And I would never speak of the things that my sugar daddy does for me either. We then would start to break it down and tell each other of the things that our sugar daddy’s do for us, ending up in some sort of convoluted race to an unknown finish line, growing greedier and greedier til one or both of us lose that sugar daddy for good.  All because of some stupid sport someone invented called “Fishing.” 

My girlfriends always go fishing at a local high-end restaurant, hoping to catch that whale, or that large bass.  Yeah, the bass reference is really not that appealing I know…But the whale, oh the whale! I dated a whale once; he purchased my new ta-ta’s and ran without ever touching them.  I am not sure why, considering HE paid for them. That whale, boy, he said I was getting too close! Only because he tried to move me in with him, give me a car, and a new life… his choice, by the way.

I told one of my sugar baby girlfriends about that whale, so she went fishing at that same restaurant and caught her own.  I wonder if the whales out there know that that place is where sugar babes go fishing for them, I wonder if they feel hunted. Well, whatever, it’s not like they’re being hung up to dry after a kill, sheesh!

They come to us by their own recognizance, aware of the dangers and small risks of dating a younger sugar baby who likes nice things…. I’m jus sayin