SugarDaddyForMe

“Their life path crossed each other like boats in the night. The passengers, for this time, leaning over the rails, managed to distinguish themselves from the surrounding mist and darkness. They would break all the rules by jumping into the warm water of the estuary. This was not due to hazard, to take credit, it had to be desired. And to receive it, you had to open your heart, jump from the boat deck to meet the other adventurer who was as foolish and optimist to leave the familiar gangway of his egoistic vessel. What happen next is of no concerns to the other passengers. The cruising liners are on their way and the bow only sees the stern of their crossing path…”    –Huh, what?

The above was a very interesting excerpt from a sugar daddy’s profile off of SugarSugar.com. This was the extent of who he is…If I were looking for sugar daddies, I’m not sure what I would make of this..Since I already have my hands full with a sugar daddy of my choosing, I’m not on the prowl at this time.. But if i were, boy, I’d have passed this profile long ago..

That Sugar Daddy’s description of himself got me thinking about the mentoring and concierge program that I have available for the sugar babies and daddies. How, besides looks, do I judge how to match people up? Maybe a 1 through 10 rating system would work! Just like we often say, “she wasn’t a ten,” or otherwise, I can just rate the sugar daddies and babies on their level of attraction. Things to rate them by;  their profiles, amount and quality of photos, descriptions, and general overall quality.  Maybe that will take some of the guess work out of what you are about to see… Haha… And just think, I’ll be doing this for YOUR benefit, you want a quality match, everyone does… It only makes sense!

-I’m jus’ sayin’

Juggling on a tightrope is not as easy as it looks…Neither is dating sugar daddies when you have a boyfriend. Now I’m not saying that it cannot be done; what I am saying is that it’s nearly impossible if you are already in love…What does love have to with it you ask?

Have you ever been in love with two people? Let me tell you, it’s not fun…So many emotions, so many real feelings…no bueno..I do not recommend it for most people..

Let’s speculate for arguments sake that you are in love with your boyfriend, but he’s been treating you less than perfect lately—so you decide to pick up a little hobby called Sugar Daddy Dating.. Now whether or not you fall in love with your sugar daddy is of no consequence, the fact that you have a boyfriend on one hand and a sugar daddy on the other means that you are not getting your own full attention.

The more men you have in your life, the less time you have for yourself, in order to do the things that make YOU interesting, sugar baby… Not to mention the aftermath of the explosion from you dating more than one man, even if you aren’t in love with them both (trust me, men care about that kind of shit)… you know, the fall-out and radiation that ensues after the said explosion? You’ll then sweep up the pieces, maybe direct them under a rug somewhere, and voila, “good as new”, right?

Eh eh– wrong…

Dating a sugar daddy while having a boyfriend or dating two men is akin to walking a tightrope, without a safety net underneath, you know the feeling? It’s a little dangerous, and exhilarating!! It’s you life sugar babies, it’s your time, take what you want and don’t look back.

I’m just ranting, and sayin’

–SugarSugar

Sugar Daddy Dating, or Mutually Beneficial Relationships are so hush-hush these days. There is a need for discretion, but I’m not sure why… I could dive into theorizing the ‘Why’, but I’ve found that philosophy rarely titillates. Instead of asking ‘Why’, I’m asking ‘Where’…

Where does sugar daddy dating come from? Where did sugar babies and sugar daddies emerge on the evolutionary time-line? According to Charles Darwin (1871) and his Sexual Selection Theory; there are mating strategies that have stood the test of time, ones that align with Mutually Beneficial Relationships. These mating strategies are mostly genetically based and include:

-Mate choices related in terms of specific “transactions” or “exchanges”

-Men choosing mates based on the superior genetics of women, youth and beauty

-Women choosing mates based on their perception of a man’s genetic ability to provide, or his amount of available resources ($$cash money$$)

-Optimal mating strategy can be derived from a mathematical model (not a simple ‘a+b=c’ equation)

I suppose I won’t bore you death with the details, but the proof is in the pudding, so to speak…The Oxford Journal is nothing to scoff at; and they are the ones who posted the Darwin-based theory on genetics playing a role in sugar daddy dating called: “Mating games: the evolution of human mating transactions” (2003).

I’ll be the first one to admit, though not the “hardest” science, Darwinism has gained some popularity with his Theory of Evolution in some science classrooms and text-books around the world…SugarSugar may not be terribly out of line

I’m Jus’ Sayin’

Who makes a good sugar baby candidate?

According to sugar daddies that I have had experience with over the years, it seems like in order for there to be a mutually beneficial relationship, sugar daddies want to help young women who are aspiring to do more and be more…

A self-proclaimed student for life, sugar daddies has been drawn to my thirst for knowledge and direction. Who better to learn from then a self-made sugar daddy millionaire? College courses cannot teach that kind of je ne sais quoi that you could learn by simply spending quality time with a sugar daddy.

There are plenty of women I interact with who would have been great sugar babies, they are successful, beautiful, strong, and sweet as pie.  We all come from somewhere, whether it’s from nothing or nothing to speak of, there’s always room to grow, be more than you are, and learn more than you know.

Even if you plan on taking over the world, like I do, you cannot do it by yourself! That’s the beauty of taking something from each and every situation that you will ever be in. Dating sugar daddies, starting businesses (and failing in the interim), having children, working a nine-to-five, or working the third shift, there are an infinite amount of experiences to learn something great from, so take what you can! If you are just getting by with your children in-tow, step it up, learn from available sugar daddies how to do more for yourself (him helping a little or a lot)! If you’re in school or want to be, seek out sugar daddies who will show you the ropes, ultimately enabling you to better yourself, and in-turn,  bettering the world as they themselves have done.

Actively pursuing anything of value or worth is worth its weight in gold to most sugar daddies… They want a young woman who is bright-eyed and bushy-tailed about the successes they themselves have had. I once dated a sugar daddy who disclosed all the inner workings of his sales force and profit margins while we were away on vacation. I always cheered on his top salesmen who, by having more than 100k in sales in a month, would prompt my SD to purchase a new gift for me…It was the best form of business positive reinforcement I had ever experienced! Everybody won!!

So whatever makes you tick, sets you apart from the droves of sugar babies out there, shed light on that in your profiles, message some sugar daddies who seem to have it made…You could learn a lot from them!

–SugarSugar

I am constantly flooded by emails about how to get started with sugar daddy dating…The truth of the matter is, that I can give dating advice all-day long, and dating advice is no different from sugar daddy dating advice… They are one in the same, if I give you dating advice, use it in your sugar daddy dating life as well, because it’s the same game with the same rules… Sugar babies aren’t prostitutes, call girls, or whores, we are just regular girls who feel deserving of a quality man in their life.

I have worked hard ever since I was able, built my little empire, married once, a couple of kids, own my home, why in God’s name would I subject myself to spending time with some douche-bag who only works half as hard as I do? That is why I choose to date older men who can take care of their women…That is WHY I choose to spend time with older men, some married (Hey I’d like to be the woman in his life, most mistresses are), established, and secure in themselves no matter what they look like.

Dating men who are successful and my age is futile because if they are as successful, they don’t want to spend time with a woman who has other obligations, ie: kids and the like.. Or they are still douchebags who cannot handle dating a woman who is as successful as he is. I most certainly don’t want to date an older gentleman who doesn’t mind my kids but isn’t as successful as me either, so my solution?…Date an older, wealthier man than myself, who may have already had kids or not, one who doesn’t really give a shit about keeping up with the Joneses, one who appreciates spending time with me; because I am awesome!  This is one mantra (Or one like it), that sugar babies need to learn.. I may not be the hottest, I may not be the skinniest, but I do know how to treat myself and a man. I’m interesting, I have my own life, friends, and I’m not an addict.

I’m a successful sugar baby who deserves to relax once in a while.. I’ll call a babysitter, have my sugar daddy whisk me away for a night, we’ll spend time truly appreciating each other’s strengths, and at the end of the day, we get the best of both worlds… No fighting, no drama, just a mutually beneficial relationship of sorts…

That’s what sugar daddy/sugar baby relationships are all about, they’re just like any other dating situation, and that’s how you should approach them. Whether or not you are both looking for the same thing will come out pretty quickly, just like regular dating..Sometimes one person wants more than the other, or vice versa, it’s apples and apples. Just be true to yourself and honest with your sugar daddies. If you want more than they do, it won’t work.. They want more than you do, it won’t work; these are the ins and outs of dating…sugar baby dating…sugar daddy dating…mutually beneficial relationships…husband-mistress…and wife-pool boy….All the rules apply, the game is the same.

I’m jus’ sayin’

–Sugarsugar

Commonly referred to as “What Not to Wear“, the Sugar daddy dating faux pas are very similar in nature, there are just things that you should not post when it comes to your online profile. Sugar babies listen up! I took the liberty of pulling some samples from SugarSugar in order to point out some profile photo flaws. Some were entertaining (sorry sugar babies), and some just won’t show up as “sexy” on a sugar daddy’s radar. My biggest pet-peeve regarding sugar baby profiles though, is the hand-held camera phones! Either you’re taking photos in your bathroom, using your plastic shower curtain as a backdrop, making some face like you didn’t know you were holding your own camera on yourself to take a picture! It’s so distracting, in the car (I mean, if you’re looking at the camera, who’s driving?), bathroom, bedroom, and most of the time, you end up blocking your face, on purpose or by accident, it’s distracting! I will be pointing out the camera phones as well… Maybe you’ll see the trend, is it really that hard to get someone else to hold the camera phone for you? They don’t even have a high resolution, so they end up pixelated anyway!

To break it down for you, here they are:

I call this one: “Dressing Room Don’t” If you want to wear something that you do not own in your profile photo, great! But maybe you should scoot your own clothing out of the way, meaning not in a rumpled pile on the bench. And don’t forget to kick your own shoe out of the photo as well, it just looks cheap. Otherwise though, you should have bought the dress and shoes, because they look great on you!

I like to call this one: “Hot-mess and a Cat” There’s a hot sugar baby in the photo, can you find her? Is it that hard to pick up a little to take a quick photo? Kick everything out of the way! Use the rag at your feet to wipe off the coffee table that’s covered in mess. And kick your pussy out of the photo too, I’m kidding, kitty can stay…But what is kitty playing with, certainly not a little mess of it’s own? I’m not sure if you can tell, but off to the left in the photo there’s more mess to discover, it’s just off camera…hmmmm

I like to call this one: “I Don’t Care” The mirror is covered in toothpaste film, the twin sized bed is messy and rumpled, there’s a two week old styrofoam cup and bottle of who knows what prescriptions sitting on the counter. There’s the dreaded camera phone photo (yes, we CAN see it too), and the get-up, well, the get-up would not get anything up, an over-sized mens tee shirt?

I’m not sure if you sugar babies review your photos before you post them, but, sugar daddies can see that you live in squalor too.

I like to call this one: “Girly isn’t Always Good” Okay first of all, was this the only room she could take a photo of herself in? Her kids room? How sexy is your sweet behind when behind you is a child’s fantasy bedroom? Is that Spongebob square pants– yeah that’s HOT (I’ll take this moment to bring back the term, NOT)… Then there’s the usual camera phone mirror shot, it’s so tacky! My suggestion to this sexy-bootie sugar baby would be to take the camera with you to a hallway, kitchen, outside, anywhere but your child’s bedroom…please You’ll get more play, I promise!!

I like to call this one: “Well?” So…There’s the conspicuous camera phone (as usual)..Then there’s that look on this SB’s face, it’s almost as if she wasn’t sure if she liked what she was seeing in the mirror! I know that photos like this are funny, and somewhat cute even, but to post it to your sugar daddy dating profile? I don’t get it, I really don’t. Secondly, the dressing room photo…again? The dress she’s trying on looks good (buy it and return it if you want), her own clothes are rumpled on the bench behind her.

But that look on her face….Oye ve, come on sugar baby, have some confidence if you’re going to use a dressing room photo for a profile picture!

The title of this one is actually already in the photo, but in case you didn’t see, it’s called: “Fast Food Restaurant Bathroom?” For obvious reasons, I am annoyed with this photo… It was taken in the bathroom (notice the multiple stalls) at a fast food restaurant (notice the ever so cliche tile colors), and there’s a camera phone being used to take the photo…’nuff said…

Oh….and taking a photo while in your car would have been better than taking one in a fast food joint.

Okay…..I call this one: “Now do you understand why I get annoyed with the camera phone profile photos?”

Ummm…Hello? Sorry sugar baby, I’m sure you are beautiful (I actually can tell), but now you’ve just gone and completely covered your face with your cell phone, ugh– Tip, move camera out of the way of seeing your beautiful face sugar baby..

And haven’t you ever heard of replacing the toilet paper roll when you finish one? This also bothers me for some unknown reason…Just take care of your sh*t I guess (no pun intended)…. Your poor guests, no toilet paper…would they have to yell for you in the next room to have you retrieve some for them?!?

Ok…one more before I sign off and give you sugar babies a break…there’s no title for this one I guess. The only thought that comes to mind though, is: “Couldn’t you just turn the TV off?”…. Pretty enough sugar baby in the forefront of the photo, distracted by my thoughts of wondering what she’s watching. That’s all..not too bad, just a minor thing that could make this photo stand out more, turn off the TV. Cheers!

I’ll end my soap box ranting with a pic that I think is creative, sexy, and cute…. This sugar baby sets herself apart with this one– kudos!

I’m jus’ sayin’ — SugarSugar.com

So you’ve been seeing your sugar daddy for a while now, been on a few trips, stay over at his amazing house regularly, giving him “The Girlfriend Experience” so to speak; what do you tell people, or should you tell people? Clearly your sugar daddy is a large aspect  of your life, considering the amount of time spent together…What are you supposed to tell people? The only people who will truly understand your perspective are other sugar babies, and we know that that can go awry too… So who can you trust? Can you tell your friends? Family? Introduce him to people?… Let’s think long and hard about this together, stimulate some brain function on the matter.

Let’s say that you are very close with your family and friends, and you’ve been dying to tell them, since you keep receiving these amazing gifts and could never afford them for yourself! What to say?…Well, from personal experience, I find that less is more when you’re disclosing information about your personal life. For example, if your sugar daddy is 20 or more years your senior, then I could understand that most people will look at that your situation and think you’re a gold-digger… But on the other hand, if you are a little more discreet, calling this man your “benefactor” (a term my Mother calls my sugar daddy), or person you are seeing, there should be no need for further discussion at that point. If people you tell don’t already, most sane people can appreciate the need for privacy in any interpersonal relationships, respecting it as much. Just think, “less is more, less is more”…

If you are anything like me, it’s extremely hard to NOT be open about most aspects of your life, to anyone that’s close to you… So, trust me, it’s not a habit that I’m used to, but because of the impermanence of the said situation, it’s best to keep the details to a minimum. Even in the closest of relationships, money has a way of making people envious and jealous, causing them to react from that space. Let’s be honest, there’s a reason why discretion is preferable in these types of relationships or arrangements, outsiders to the situation sometimes don’t like their own lives, thus making it difficult to accept others happiness and success. And to see someone thrive monetarily when they themselves are not is hard for people to accept, that’s when the “acting out” ensues.

Less is more, people will stab you in the back, fuck, even your own family…Less is more, people are not as understanding as you…Less is more, and it’s not a God-given right for people to know your personal life…Less is more, less is more, less is more… I’m jus’ sayin’

-SugarSugar

When deciding how to act, how not to act, when to discuss arrangements, etc. when you’re sugar daddy dating, it’s important to have a balance of seriousness and playfulness…(the same can be said about the attire you choose)

Let’s assume that you’ve written back and forth with a sugar daddy and have now decided to meet for the first time. Where you guys decide to meet necessitates what you should wear and how you should act. That said, let’s just, for arguments sake, say that you decide on meeting for a drink. Let’s also assume that an arrangement hasn’t been discussed thus far.

What to wear, what to wear? Well, I say it’s always best to err on the side of caution when meeting a potential SD for the first time, almost like you are going to a job interview (with a little sex-appeal). You don’t want to reek of sex; you just want to be appealing enough that if you walk past your pot SD, the scent of sexy causes them do a double take in your general direction. That’s the ultimate reaction that you want from your SD.

Also, when choosing an eau de parfum to wear, please choose one other than the not-so-classic warm vanilla musk from Bath and Body Works…(May I suggest something from the Bond No. 9 collection)

If upon meeting, you are hitting it off, or your small talk is flowing easily, then you should be comfortable in asking your pot SD what type of arrangement he is looking for, express to him what needs you have, and tell him what you want the final outcome to be in an arrangement with an SD. If both you and your pot SD seem to be on the same page, as far as amount of time requested in seeing one another, needs for discretion, and concurrent physical attraction, then you can start discussing what financial, obligatory or otherwise wants you have.

You are never required to discuss anything with which you are uncomfortable…money, sex, types of arrangements, shit you don’t ever have to meet a SD if you so choose! But… like anything else, if you don’t put yourself out there, then you may never see or experience your full-potential as a succubus or sugar baby.

So good luck sugar babies on meeting your sugar daddies!

-SugarSugar

If you were lucky enough to have your sugar daddy take you somewhere for the weekend to celebrate Labor Day, good for you! Your sugar daddy has probably labored enough in his career for the both of you..

Just wanted to take a moment to appreciate this day and it’s meaning…

The most pertinent topic for the day is the holiday that gives some Americans this day off from laboring at their jobs, Labor Day. Because I have been self-employed for so long, the idea of having Labor Day off always seemed like one of those things that I could just dream about, like the other national holidays that don’t pertain to me personally. This year though, I thought I’d do something different. Not only will I work, laboring over a computer for a few hours, but I want to take the time I’m spending working to give thanks to the fact that I am fruitful with labor…

I don’t think many of us contemplate the meaning of “Labor Day” and it’s origin..We hear political leaders speak of it on this day, thanking the workers who formed an official union more than 100 years ago. The only reason most people would know of the true meaning of “Labor Day”, is if they weren’t out of town, at the lake, or doing some other play-intensive activity.

In the midst of anything that you did over the weekend to celebrate, shop the great sales, eat at family BBQ’s, or skip out of town, I want to ask you to take a moment to assess what you bring to your community in the form of labor. For those of you working full-time, let’s just take a moment from the holidays happenings to be thankful that we are working, be thankful that we are contributing on a daily basis to the workforce, that we are even able to do so… Because let’s face it, 9.3 % of Americans are out of work, a really large chunk of our society. That said, I want to ask you not only to be thankful for the jobs that you have, but that when you go back to work tomorrow, that you give more of yourself than you did last week and the week before to the labor that you do.. There are plenty of over-qualified people who would love to be in the position that many of you are, being able to take a paid day off for having a job in the first place..That is a luxury.

This, the origin of Labor Day:

“Labor Day differs in every essential from the other holidays of the year in any country,” said Samuel Gompers, founder and longtime president of the American Federation of Labor. “All other holidays are in a more or less degree connected with conflicts and battles of man’s prowess over man, of strife and discord for greed and power, of glories achieved by one nation over another. Labor Day…is devoted to no man, living or dead, to no sect, race, or nation.”

Labor Day, the first Monday in September, is a creation of the labor movement and is dedicated to the social and economic achievements of American workers. It constitutes a yearly national tribute to the contributions workers have made to the strength, prosperity and well-being of our country.

Please, take a moment to be thankful for either working or having a sugar daddy who does…

I’m jus’ sayin’

SugarSugar.com

Hey sugar babies… Since we are still on the topic of newly dating sugar daddies, and I already requested that sugar daddies know what kind of sugar daddy they are, let’s explore the kind of sugar baby you are. And to all you sugar daddies out there, this information is for your benefit as well, enabling you to ask the right questions of your sugar baby!  That said, let’s get started…

When deciding what kind of a sugar baby you are, also think about whether or not these are genuinely your character traits… Also, you may find that in certain circumstances or arrangements, you are either a combination of a few different sugar baby types, or are acting out a specific type for that specific SD. Any way you go about it, alter-ego or not, here are some of the types of sugar babies out there, which one are you?

Innocently Naïve SB- The virgin of sugar babies, these are the good girls, the inexperienced, in need of spoiling and guidance. This type of SB is sought out by SD’s because they are most likely to be “trainable” and usually aren’t too manipulative. There is a little uncertainty residing with this SB as she may be just getting her feet wet, not knowing what she’s getting into or whether she’s staying.

Gold Digger SB- Gosh, don’t you just love that term? Popular hip-hop music presently reminds us of the negative connotations the so-called “gold diggers” have, but I don’t see the problem. These SB’s like the finer things in life, if you’ve got it, then she wants it. These refined SB’s are probably the most attractive SB’s overall, and they feel deserving of nothing less than the best. Either they’ve worked hard for their money and expect you to treat them better than they treat themselves, or they may be accustomed to a certain lifestyle from a previous marriage, but these SB’s are label whores (again, not a BAD quality).

Seeking Marriage SB- Not your one-night-stand kind of sugar baby, this SB wants you to ride in on a white horse (and be hung like one) to rescue her from her life. She wants to be taken care of and she wants true love. She wants the companion, best-friend, lover, and all the other things that sugar daddies may or may not cringe at, although usually the former. Some SD’s are looking for the same thing….just probably not in those words.

Business SB- This sugar baby has goals, independence, and seeks opportunity. She is not afraid to soak up whatever business advice sugar daddies have that got them to where they’re at. These SB’s are quick learners, sometimes manipulative, and are overall inspiring to be around because they are such sponges for your knowledge (when’s the last time YOU didn’t want to talk about yourself?).

Attached SB- Otherwise taken, this sugar baby needs something from her sugar daddy that she isn’t getting at home. This may be the most likely NSA arrangement as these SB’s usually want to stay in their relationships with their significant other. Sugar daddies and sugar babies have needs alike, so why not share a cab and get what you both want? This type of sugar baby does really well with a married SD as both parties understand the need for discretion well.

Figure out what type of sugar baby you are, make it known to pot SD’s in your profile, and let the pieces fall where they may…

I’m jus’ sayin’

SugarSugar.com