SugarDaddyForMe

Lesson 4

Planning the first meeting

When it comes to planning the first meeting a lot of emotions are in play. Anxiety is in high gear, excitement, fear and happiness. Both parties have invested plenty of time getting to know each other, this first meeting is the time where chemistry is tested. It determines whether an arrangement will ever come into play.

I would suggest that the Sugar Daddy asks the Sugar Baby to choose the place. He should provide her with an area where he is comfortable with and there is minimal chance of running into anyone he knows. The SB should provide couple of places from which the SD can choose. This way both parties are comfortable with the location and that bit of anxiety is taken care of.

I would suggest that the first meeting takes place in a public place. Sugar Babys take the time to choose a place where you are comfortable with. Know how to get there and be on time. Meeting for drinks or coffee mitigate the risk of being stuck with someone you do not like for hours having lunch/dinner. Meeting for drinks always allows the option of moving on to dinner if there is some sort of a connection. If you opt out to meet for coffee, choose something other than Starbucks. The place is too busy to have a private conversation. However, a small coffeehouse allows for an intimate setting where both parties can enjoy getting to know each other.

Tip of the day: Limit your first meeting to 45 minutes to an hour. Then go your separate ways! If you feel like you should have spent more time with the other person… well that means that you should see each other again!

Happy meeting sugars!

Lesson Number 3

Be careful when revealing your true identity

For sugar babies it is key to find out if the person we are speaking with is indeed capable of being a sugar daddy. This often requires finding out who they are. Doing our due diligence before meeting is key. As such we request the person’s full name. For a sugar daddy discretion is paramount. If he is in a high position revealing his identity is a big step. This causes a conflict, as most SDs refuse to provide a picture in order to protect himself from being found out. This of course puts us in a predicament.

Taking some time to get comfortable with each other is the only solution. It is important that both parties provide comfort to each other and ensure discretion. Usually, communication should include finding out whether the parties are indeed compatible for an arrangement. If you are not then there should be no need for either to reveal their identity. Finding out what each party needs and is offering over the first couple of emails saves time. If there are red flags in the beginning then move on and continue searching. However, if the needs and limitations align and there is a level of comfort then revealing the identity is part of the course. Do it wisely … and provide it only if you have interest in meeting the other person.

As promised this week will be all about sugar safety. A lot of sugar relationships come to an end because the SD’s significant other becomes suspicious, or worse, finds out about his infidelities. This is neither pretty nor cheap. Of course none of us wants this as it takes the sweetness of sugar dating out.

Lesson Number 1

Get a mischief email

Maybe this should be common sense but it is not. I cannot tell you how many times a potential SD has emailed me from his work email. While this puts me at ease about his identity it is not a good safety measure. What if an Sugar Daddy runs into someone who is not an SB and is only looking to cause him trouble. Blackmail? No one wants that. So please please please get an email account dedicated to sugar daddy dating only.

Be careful not to enter your full name when filling out the email application!

Tip of the day: Obtain a gmail address and then request google voice using the same account! Talk about seamless integration!

You don’t know what google voice is? Well stay tuned, as tomorrow I will go into the wonderful world of google voice.

I can’t remember the last time I checked my account at sugar daddy for me website. You see, I was a member of that site but I totally stopped checking it since I found out about sugarsugar.

I believe the site is still good, but sugar daddy for me website doesn’t work for me anymore. I got tired of it so I transferred to www.sugarsugar.com. I am happier here than the other site, but I still maintain my account there, though I haven’t checked it for a long time.

I got busy with www.sugarsugar.com. There are a lot of girls here, so I have a lot of competition. But that’s okay. I know I have to focus if I want to win the race — the race for a sugar daddy’s heart, and millions. Even if there were quite a few more sugar daddies listed at sugarsugar, we sugar babies still outnumber them.

Maybe there’s a question lingering in your mind. And that question would be, “If there’s too much competition, then why stay?” Because we are competing for quality sugar daddies at this site, the kind of sugar daddies a sugar baby really wants to meet. They’re no Donald Trump or Warren Buffet in terms of wealth, but they are close enough. Wish me luck!

It’s not only money that attracts sugar babies to sugar daddies. If you can ask famous people who have had sugar daddys, they will tell you the same. These famous people already have money. And most of the time being famous is synonymous to being wealthy (not all the time, though).

So what else do you think is the reason why sugar babies are attracted to sugar daddies? The answer to that is power. Here in our world the more money you have the more powerful you are. And that’s why famous people who have had sugar daddys maintain a millionaire sugar daddy relationship. Having a powerful ally is good for one’s career, prestige, or influence.

Stars like Catherine Zeta Jones and Michael Douglas, Calista Flockhart and Harrison Ford, Celine Dion and her husband/manager, Rene Angelil are good examples of May-December relationships in Hollywood – or even TIGER WOODS!?? These couples’ unions are like the merger of two powerful clans, making them more powerful. You see, in Hollywood, there are a lot of potential sugar daddys to choose from. From big time veteran actors to production executives.

But how can a sugar baby outside of Tinseltown find her powerful sugar daddy? Easy. All you have to do is create a free profile at www.sugarsugar.com, in case you don’t have one yet, and start searching for the sugar daddy who can provide you with the influence you are looking for. Don’t forget, www.sugarsugar.com, the best sugar daddy dating site for you.

I am sure everyone has had enough of the Tiger Woods debacle, however, I think it is very important to take a step back and give him credit where credit is due. He is a great Sugar Daddy!

He kept all of his ladies on payroll and provided them with a very generous allowance. Tiger kept in contact with them and it appeared that he had developed a relationship with them which extended beyond a causal sexual encounter. Last, he provided them with amazing experiences, took them out on trips and showed them a great time.

Now if someone provided me with all of the perks above I would think that I have hit the Sugar Daddy Jackpot! Sure he had MANY sugar babies, but lets get realistic, many SBs have more than one SD. It is part of the NSA territory. We as Sugar Babies should be aware of this and learn how to respect the boundaries.

I think that the only mistake he made was getting caught… and all of that could have been avoided should he had followed some basic precautions. This week I will write a 4 part series of how to safeguard your privacy and avoid getting caught, so stay tuned and take note… unless having a press conference where you apologize to the world is something on your bucket list.

Lesson 2

Get a mischief phone!

This is very simple to get, a track phone is an excellent option. An SD can keep one just for sugar dating and can leave it in the office when he does not want to be reached. For the SB a second phone can provide her with an additional layer of safety in case sugar potential turns sour. Of course this requires him/her having 2 cell phones and that is an additional hassle.

If this option is not for you and you prefer to have one phone only then the google voice application is for you. This requires you to have a smart phone, which in this day and age should be no problem. Go too google.com/voice and get one. It might take you a while to get approved but once you do the wait will be worth it.

What the geniuses from Google have come up with is a free cell number which you tack on to your personal cell. You can manage your access from their site which looks similar to the gmail website. It allows you to forward all of your calls to your cell phone. In addition, you receive a text mailbox which you can forward to your phone or access from the application which you must install. The super nifty feature of the service is voice mail transcriptions. I personally HATE checking voice mails and with the google voice I don’t need to do so anymore. The voice mail is transcribed and sent to me in a text from.

Last, if you have ever had to block someone from contacting you I am sure you have found out just how difficult that is from your cell carrier. Not so with google voice… it is just a click away and voila you will no longer hear from this person. You can also opt out to have that number go to voice mail straight away. Of course this voicemail can be set up just for them. Yes that is right you can tell the person you are no longer interested by never speaking to them… awesome right?

So now I expect google voice to be flooded with new requests.

You are very welcome sugar world!

First impressions are so important. You never get a second chance at making a first impression. A bona fide sugar baby is well aware of this. A successful sugar baby has mastered this skill.

So how does one go about making a good first impression? You can accomplish this in three easy steps.

1) Look the part – Find out where you are meeting and dress accordingly. No SugarDaddie wants to be seen with someone who looks out of place.

2)Arrive on time – Familiarize yourself with the location of the date and be there on time. If you are running late let him know.

3)Prior to meeting think about talking points – This is crucial for a first meeting. He will remember what he sees but he needs to be sure that you can carry on a conversation. Stay on neutral subjects, find out about his interests and pay attention.

If you follow these easy steps I guarantee you that each one of your meetings will go well. Some might not result in an arrangement but at least he will feel like he met someone of quality.

Looking the part of a sugar baby is important. Knowing what to wear at a date is a big component of it.

I like to meet potentials right after work. Therefore, I end up attending dates in my very conservative work attire. A pressed french cuff shirt and black pants or a skirt on par with pumps is the name of the game for me.

If you are meeting some of them later on in the night a simple black dress will do you wonders. Pair that off with pearls and sexy shoes is sure to leave him speachless.

However, if the meeting is a bit more low key (a-la-starbucks), opt out for a tunic and leggings. A nice pair of slim fitting jeans paired with a cute top always does the trick.

Avoid wearing too revealing of an attire. You do not want to look like someone he picked up off the street. Being sexy is great but being slutty sends the wrong message.

Accenting your “assets” is great when done in moderation. A lower cut blouse alludes him to what is to come without being too much. A belly shirt which is low cut as well on the other hand makes him view you in a whole other light.

What are some of your staples when going out on dates?

Part of being able to maintain a sugar relationship is directly attributed to your flexibility.

Understanding that your SD is a busy man is key. Working with his time constraints can make or break the arrangement. He is looking for someone who is able to deal with this.

Last minute cancellations are normal when in an arrangement. A person in position of power has last minute things pop up all the time. Rather than giving him grief about it let him know that you understand but expect him to make it up to you next time.

Sometimes it takes you moving around your social life to accomodate a last minute opening. He will appreciate this gesture and reward you accordingly.

If you have to cancel a date please give him notice. More often than not, the SD is a married man who has to be creative when it comes to allotting time to spend with his SB. Canceling can fuel suspition with his significant other and that is never a good thing. I usually cancel 48 hours before said date, then again, I rarely ever cancel.

The key is to facilitate his life, not complicate it. He is providing you with a generous allowance/gifts for your time. In return he expects that you are flexible and accomodating.